When these two were in their early teens their father was killed in a car accident. I have always known the pain they carry. My daughter did have school counseling but my son refused to go. He was closest with his Dad and I have never seen him shed a tear for his loss. That bothered me, I did not know how to help them. All I could do was be there and tell them anytime they wanted to talk, I was here.
Again, they have been confronted with the fact, very young, that they are not in control of their lives, for no one would ever choose to lose their father in such a way. Humanly speaking, though, trusting a God who would take their father would also be very difficult ... and then to watch you move on, trust God, find love, and keep it moving says God can be trusted, but receiving that truth would require them to submit to His will, and that confess that He is right in whatever He does. This is not possible, humanly speaking ... but I will pray that the Spirit of God touch their hearts.