RE: Goodbye to Grandma — WeAreAliveAndSocial

Your grandmother sounds like she was an amazing woman and she seemed to have raised some really good kids, the love and family bond is so clear. I'm happy for you that you could take care of her last weeks, but I'm sad for you that there was a traumatic experience involved that night. I hope you were able to (partially) process that by now.

I always think it helps when the people they love tell them it's ok to go now, because it often seems they are not ready to let go because of the fear that those left behind aren't ready. This is one of many stories where I read (it also happened with my grandmother btw) that once the closest to them tell the dying person "it's ok to go", they are ready to leave.

I know it's not been too long since this happened, I'm now heading to your latest post and maybe find out how you're doing .. it's a lot, and it's ok not to be ok if that's the case..

Much love..

I am mostly doing Ok post grandma. I think it is just hard because the grandma stuff and the mom stuff are so intertwined. Just 2 days after grandma died mom was back in the hospital. And a couple weeks before grandma passed I had wanted to take her to visit mom, but it didn’t end up working out so I felt some guilt and sadness over that. I hated that my mom couldn’t properly say goodbye to her mom. And I know how sad grandma would be if she had lived to see mom’s cancer come back.

And then you add my aunt (who is also my godmother) I feel like I am losing the last of the women who made me all at once. And not having my own kiddos sort of adds this finality to the whole thing. I will be the last person in that line of my family and while that has been the case for years, it feels heavier now that grandma is gone and mom is on her way out.