There is always going to be where to draw the line for a balance to happen and the same goes for when one wants to show kindness or be of help to people. No one says it's wrong or bad to help, it's actually a beautiful thing to be help when it's needed the most and so it is very encouraged But where do we draw the line?
While I am not one who likes to be in the position of needing help from anyone, I've been in that shoe a countless times and I can only imagine how bad it could have gotten for me if no one actually cared to help. The few times that people refused to help, I can still how it felt and it wasn't a very good feeling.
We all need each other's help but we must not fail to prioritise what is most important while we are at it!
Who or what is to be prioritized when we give? For me, it depends on each situation of giving help. There are some help you give and it ends up being a trouble for you because you didn't really feel like giving it, I see those as you prioritizing the person who asked for the help. This is cool, sometimes we make sacrifices but it shouldn't be over and over at the expense of your health in any way.
There are some times when I help people and I feel so much joy and fulfilment because I was able to help out, I see that as me prioritizing the person and myself which is also good. Most times when I give, I feel it is for myself and the person or people I'm giving. They are happy to have got help from another and I'm happy I was capable to help.
Where I draw the line to prioritise myself to not spoil what I know how to do best, is learning to say No when I have to. Honestly, there have been times when I have the one asking needs and I say no. This is just for the fact that the person has become an unexpected liability and sees me as one who would help anyways.
There is joy in giving but when these set of people do not make me feel any joy in giving anything, I prioritize myself over them when they come asking. Yes, I still feel some kinda guilt especially when I have what they need in good amount or strength but one thing I hate to feel like is, being used.
There are like a trillion people who needs help in the world, while I wouldn't want to feel bad about giving anyone, I would love that I don't have people who are only there to test my patience on how much I can give but people who really need my help. So once I sense anything from who I am giving always and it isn't settling well with me, I retrace my steps in how I give to them.
So yeah, I may give for others but I still give for myself because there is joy in giving and I'm a living testimony to that experience.
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