To live more and suffer less

in Hive Learners5 months ago

Greetings!

When I read the prompt announcement of this article, I felt like the publisher was talking to me directly because I've faced challenges many times, especially with sickness, and no one knew apart from my brother who was living with me on an "off and on" pattern.

The last sickness I had, which was two years ago if I'm not mistaken, came at a time when my immediate younger brother was no longer as stable in the house as he used to be. He had been traveling here and there for his hustling. The sickness came and held me so bad that I found it hard to come outside the house or open my workplace, which was within the compound. It's not like it was so bad at the initial stage that I couldn't walk out or talk; no, it was just there, dealing with me, and I didn't want anyone else to know because I hate that sympathetic thing. I don't usually have friends that come around to visit; most of my friends are online.

One day came and went, and I didn't allow anybody to see me. Only one person in the compound asked about me, and that was because he came to collect the phone charger he had used to charge his phone in my house the previous night. When he saw my mood, I just told him I was battling a minor fever. Yeah, that was what I thought it was until it worsened the following day to the extent that I found it hard to walk out to get drugs from the chemist shop close to me because of a heavy cold. I was suffering inside but still didn't want anybody to know because I don't want people telling me that "sorry" and peeping into life and also I knew I wasn't going to die. I just have this confidence that I must hit 98 years and above before leaving this earth, so no matter what type of health issues come, I don't fear.

On the night of the second day, when the pain in my stomach and the cold were severe, my brother walked into the house around 9:30 pm with his traveling bag. Immediately he saw me and asked what was up, he went to get more drugs and Lucozade Boost for me, which I struggled to take.

That particular sickness taught me a lesson to be less secretive and private, especially about health issues. I knew I wouldn't have died, but if my brother hadn't come that night, I would have reached hell, and maybe placed one of my hands on it. Lol 😂


I think God on the judgement day, will judge a person badly if he or she died of sickness where the person could have opened up to people around him to get help.

A scenario happened when I was in school...

In the middle of the night around 3:00 am, we had a bang on our door. We were already awake, and when we opened it, we saw our landlord panting and begging us to help him take his wife to the hospital because she was dying. We rushed off, and when we got there, the wife was almost naked, lying lifeless on the couch. At that moment, he (the landlord) didn't bother that we were seeing his wife like that; all he wanted was for us to just help get her to the hospital by all means.
Who knows, maybe if he had told us to wait first to dress his wife before we were allowed to enter the house, she might not have survived.

That's where wisdom comes into play in our lives. There are private aspects of our lives that we need to limit in order to live more and suffer less. Though it has its disadvantages, we should try to be moderate.

Thanks for reading.


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Though we all want our private space, we should at least try to allow some people into our lives. It could be one or two neighbors who would notice if they didn't see us for a day or two.

It's a good thing your brother came around on time.

#dreemerforlife

Yeah, the approach of letting people into our lives is something people like me should welcome very quickly. But it's not easy too😥

Thank you for stopping by ma'am

But seriously, are there really people that boast of not having to ask for help when necessary?
You said it all correctly. In situations such as those you mentioned above, it's only rational to ask for help. Pride doesn't lead one anywhere
#dreemerforlife

People that don't ask for help?
They are there ooo! We are many. Lol 😂

Thank you for stopping by.
!luv

Eii, this thing is actually not a flex, it's okay to ask for help especially in moments like that when your health was in a bad state. Thank God your brother came just at the right time.

The habit of not asking for help is not really nice but helps to keep steeze. Lol😂
I know it's not good jareh and I'm fighting it hard to come out

See you😂😂😂

It's great you could make it to be healthy again. Lesson learned. Might God be always by our side.

#dreemerforlife

Yeah. Lesson learned.
I'm coming out from that habit gradually.
Thank you for stopping by

It is a very bad thing to be sick and keep quiet because at that point you can't help yourself, so sorry, am happy you are better, how's your landlords wife doing.

#dreemerforlife

Yeah, I know that kind of thing, it is very bad to keep off in such condition because anything, I mean anything bad can happen.

I'm overcoming that habit, small small.

Landlord's wife is fine.
Thank you for stopping by

Suffering is always beyond privacy. Thanks for sharing.

We don't really have to keep everything private oo, imagine cases like this bro but thank God for life.

In situations like this, there are no limits; danger does not care about privacy!

I like your spirit jare.... E sure for you say you go pass 98years. It's not everything that should be kept secret, but at the same time humans like poke nosing. Thank God your brother arrived on time.

Your story is both compelling and insightful. It’s a stark reminder of the importance of balancing privacy with the need for help, especially during health crises. Your experience and the lesson learned about being less secretive when it comes to health are invaluable. The anecdote about your landlord further emphasizes the necessity of timely action over privacy. Thank you for sharing these personal and profound experiences.

It's detrimental to one's health if one maintains privacy beyond the limit line during illness. I do tell people that your immediate neighbor is your companion especially at the time of health challenges.

#dreemerforlife

I knw this gospel truth ooo but my head was so strong then.😂
I'm crawling out of that habit gradually 😂
Thank you for coming 🙌

I used to be one that suffered in silence, while keeping a smile on my face so people wouldn't know. Many experiences in my life has taught me to stop being secretive when I am facing difficulties.
Now I know that the people around me are divinely placed by God for us to relate with. I still don't go about telling people everything, but I have learnt that there are times when silence is not so golden 😊.
#dreemerforlife