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in Reflections2 days ago




... Especially when we wonder why we keep stumbling over and over again with the same stone. 😬

When someone wants to be there, no words are needed... That is felt with a single glance..

A few days ago Yadira, a good friend, while we were having a homemade cream punch made by me, my mom's recipe, at my house, she told me that her current partner, was proposing to her.

Beyond that romantic moment, which she, she told me, the truth is that what I see there is a powerful statement, so, I said to Yadira, friend the love you deserve comes when you dare to close the wrong doors.

Yadira came from a rather media and stormy relationship that did not close well at all, and obviously there was a lot of dependence and suffering. In such cases it is when we understand that holding on to what hurts is not love, it is fear.

Fear of loneliness, of emptiness, of believing that there will be nothing better. But here's the truth: letting go of someone who doesn't love you like you deserve isn't the end, it's the beginning of something much bigger.

In that space of mourning and reconstruction, a wiser, more serene, and above all, truer love is born, like this one he is offering you, Fabian.

It is fundamental, I told Yadira to understand that in that void that you have left after that love breakup, was where self-love was born, and from there then you can build something real, so do it with Fabián, friend.

Fabian, he looks handsome and I feel good people, I think from what you say, that this new love in your life, is that kind of love that does not ask you to get lost, friend; rather, it is a love that nourishes you, helps you to find yourself and transforms you.

Without a doubt, letting go of a bad relationship is not losing, it is giving you the opportunity to find yourself...

Congratulations to you Yadira.

In conclusion, to this story that I am writing today about Yadira and Fabián, I assure you that the true luxuries of life are not material things, but rather values, respect, loyalty and the ability to love from the soul.

They are those things that are not bought, but that fill every corner of our heart.

It is to have close people who add up, who take care of us and who are with us unconditionally. The real luxuries are in honesty, in moments of peace and in those connections that make us feel at home, no matter where we are.

Closing the cycle is not forgetting...

It is learning to give a new place to what we feel, it is accepting that that story has come to an end, it is giving us the time to cry, to wonder, to live our grief and then start again, it is remembering all the good that is in oneself, it is focusing on our well-being, it is returning to oneself, making ourselves responsible for ourselves, and remembering that sometimes the most important forgiveness turns out to be forgiveness towards oneself, it is "forgiving ourselves for accepting less than we deserve", and being kinder to us.

Self-love and personal growth are fundamental to building healthy and lasting relationships. Those of us who learn and apply it, surely love will come into our life at the perfect moment.

Janitze 🌹



Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia


Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva


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Do you feel people are less in touch with themselves nowadays and that this fact inhibits their ability to build relationships?

Interesting your thoughtful question.

Really everyone listens to their own emotions, some of us are already used to it and what we want is to go to bed early, others we stay and have a great time with the children that's why Santa Klaus, I think we have to give illusion, imagination, and fantasy to our life that makes it more beautiful. Greetings.

Imagination surely makes life more interesting.

Our mind is the boss...

It really is.