Fear is the enemy

in #conflict6 months ago

Last night, I was lying on the couch, doing stuff on the phone. I was feeling quite good because I had been able to work well, embracing the process and even did a couple of extra hours which are paid here, miserably, but it seems acceptable considering I'm not currently spending any money and eating well, showing with hot water, and sleeping on a bed (can be a luxury for a traveler you know?)

In case you want to know how miserable, it's 1.93 USD per hour. To be fair, Brasil isn't as expensive as other countries so it's useable money. I got four shirts and a pair of shorts for less than that, there's plenty of food hanging from the trees here and there, and the volunteer work covers my lodgings. I was getting rather excited on the prospect of being able to stack up some cash and invest while I'm at it so that I can eventually go back to my project in the forest with more resources or perhaps even start one here.

My positive outline of the future collapsed when I heard someone carefully creeping in through the door. The room mate who had left the day before was back, and I was not at all thrilled by his arrival. I actually felt very vulnerable and a bit in danger, after all, Krishna's favor was gone. Note to self:never put your faith in any other god than the nameless one that dwells within you. The guy had left the day before without telling the host anything, and now he was back without telling him either.

I had to inform the host because otherwise I would be involved later, as I thought he would be kicked out. But nope, the host is desperate for workers so he just gave him a quick sermon and went on his way.

In the absence of my room mate, a lady who works here gave me all the sauce on how he had been a bad companion to a previous volunteer, making her life impossible. My disgust towards him now had more substance, it was not just that I didn't like him, it was that he actually wasn't a good person. Now it made sense why I felt so uncomfortable in his presence.

His energy felt violent and I took a couple of the sharpest knives to the bed with me, just in case. The density of the energy I felt was corroborated when I asked him if he was going to inform the host about staying here and he replied with an angry face: "you tell him if you want to". Then I asked him if he was ok, if he was going through something, to which he replied: "are you a psychologist?"

I felt like taking the initiative on the violence but controlled myself. It wasn't going to do me any good, it would be goodbye to traveling and the chance to find a proper place to be in.

What to do? Staying a whole month with this going on would be hell.

All of this made me think about a lot of things and in the end I figured that fear was behind it all. He wasn't the enemy, fear was. So I'm working on that right now, just being cautious and accepting all the chaos that is going on within me. I have sent a message to Worldpackers hoping that they will help me move out of here without harming my rating on the platform, but this consideration of fear and the desire to overcome it makes me feel ok about staying here and dealing with the situation.

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Have no fear! And when you don't, it won't be a big deal to tell the guy that as a social human being you see it as your natural responsibility to make sure those around you are okay. At least, that's what came to my mind as a quick response. But I understand, all this depends on the finer details of the situation. And since you felt the need to take those knives to bed with you, I'm guessing that there were some other bad attributes of this guy and the air around him. Maybe I wouldn't have said anything at all to him, if it was me who had to share a space with him.

I think of saying many things to him but I don't speak Portuguese and that limits me as there will be so much interference and misunderstanding. For the moment I'll just sit it out and see what happens...

damn. That sounds unpleasant, I’m glad I’m somewhere where there aren’t many confrontational people but on the bright side, you can learn how to deal with these people because you are exposed to them, and also face your fears.

Some fears are warranted. These ones sure seem to be, but trust your instincts, these kinds of experience can come in handy in the future or help reveal something about yourself.

The currency thing is just how it is, that sounds like a sweet situation if you are ok with it. Honestly, I earn a lot more than that but I probably save less than you every month so if I wasn’t trying to build something here I’d probably go join you.

Also because your living costs are low, your effort at Hive is 5-10x more valuable than mine. Luckily because of the crashing yen, my time at hive is becoming more valuable as well.

A comfortable bed, hot water good food and safety is all you need! Figure out that last one and you are set! And keep stacking 😃

I am horrible at keeping up with people but I’m gonna try to make more of an effort to follow your blog, Very interesting life!

Yes, it's been an intense social experience but yesterday I challenged the guy to a fight because I preferred if there was going to be violence that it was under agreement, not an outburst or any kind of backstabbing.

He didn't accept and I realized that he wasn't as much a danger as I thought. He's much taller than me and broader so maybe that made me perceive him as a danger. Though he clearly did act with I'll intent on several occasions.

In the end, the host came and talked a lot of wisdom and I saw what part I was playing in the conflict and we shook hands on a new beginning. We'll see what happens.

You know where Hive effort is highly rewarded is Venezuela. I might go there to stack up for real at some moment hehe

Thanks for the appreciation bro, I'll try and keep up with you as well, though I'm just as bad at it 🤣