Pleasant greetings to you all.
It's another Thursday and again, the second of three contests hosted by the thinkers corner, a community initiated by @kenechukwu97. This week the prompt is..
Is there ever a scenario in which I would choose not to apologise for something I said or did?
Growing up, I hated drama, i still do till date. I like things to be out in the open in plain sight, no hullabaloo, no shenanigans and no tai-chi. I believe this philosophy was greatly influenced by my temperament as being partly phlegmatic. So in order to avoid drama around me, I often took the blame for things that I had no involvement in. So apologising came naturally to me. I don't feel any less of a human just because I apologized for peace to reign.
I understand that there are quite a lot of varying views and opinions on apologizing but so far I have never lost anything from doing so. My wallet stays the same, my height and hair colour stays the same after I apologise rather I win over the hearts of those involved and gain a few friends.
I have always lived by a code and that is to cherish my mental health above anything because a little thing can stress me out for days, causing me to lose my beauty sleep and incure a headache.
Sometimes I get cheated out of an arrangement or business deal and some of my pals would say "Becky, do you mean you will take this ? Why not give it to them hot hot. If It was me I would have showed them pepper". I would look at this well meaning wrestle- mania pals of mine and shake my head...If only they knew that when two elephants fight, it is the grass that suffers or that two hot people coming in contact would cause an explosion .
I always view every situation from different angles and then I choose the best course of action for the long run and not the short term.
The person you hurt today might end up being in a position to assist you or recommend you for greatness tomorrow, so I'm usually well aware.
I can apologise to anyone for peace to reign and for any drama to settle but there are certain scenarios in which I don't think I will apologise for any action of mine or for what I say.
One of such scenarios is when I witness the weak and elderly being bullied or instances of callousness against another human being. I can't tolerate such acts and if peradventure I come across such hideous acts being committed, then I won't hesitate to say my mind at such disgust to the instigator or perpetrator of such acts without any apology.
Another scenario where I doubt if I would apologize, is when someone wrongs those close to me and dear to my heart. Oh my, oh my, have you heard of waking up the sleeping dragon, that's exactly how I become, a real dragon with red eyes and nostrils removing steam, throat ready to spit out fire. I don't care whatever happens to me, I would go all the way, step on as many toes without apology just to protect and defend my loved ones. I don't want to be misunderstood here, if that loved one was at fault, then I will surely apologize to make peace but if the reverse is the case abd there's a drama being stirred up, well I won't be polite either. Some people have no self-awareness and they are thick-skinned, the only way to penetrate them is to be sharp tongued and being resolute in pointing out their wrongs without fear or bias.
Life is not fair but we should not deliberately add to it. Saying sorry has never demeaned anyone...ever. It is a magic word that calms most situations and stop it from escalating.
Thank you for reading....shalom.
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