I am a person who is not fond of drama in one’s life. I love to have peace and harmony in my surroundings and in my relationships. Whether or not I agree to people whom I have to adjust with, I try to be as adaptive as possible to maintain the harmony both inside me and outside.
It is very unlikely for me to have quarrels and useless arguments with people. I give people the space they need, and try not to intervene in people’s matter where they want the privacy. Besides, I am not a difficult person to talk to. If someone comes to me for a conversation, I display concerns; and try to be compassionate for whatever is discussed along with not being judgmental.
Perhaps, these are the reasons I am in good terms with most of the acquaintances in my life. Nonetheless, it does not at all mean that I have plenty of people whom I call “My Friends”. There is only a small number that can easily be counted on fingers.
In our social circle, everyone we hang out with or chat with is not the friends, no matter how friendly may be in our dealings. Real friends are the stalwart companions who effortlessly come to our mind whenever we are in a need or help, be it emotional or practical. These are those dependable people whom we trust to be supportive.
Friends are those trusted confidants to whom we can display our vulnerability without the fear of being judged. These are those genuine individuals who stand with us no matter what the world says.
Friendship between two people is not formed all of a sudden. It is a relationship that grows gradually. Of course, communication is the key factor in the development.
We interact and encounter with an individual. Layers after layers our true selves are displayed to one an other. Our similarities and differences are revealed. During this process if a comfort zone is created between the two, the relation is likely to bloom over time.
In order for the friendship to grow stronger, it is crucial to be genuinely respectful and honest, both in the presence and absence of the companion. A true friend never becomes a reason to bring disgrace to us. S/he always keeps good wills for us.
Once such a strong relation is formed, it is likely to retain forever. It is not necessary to have a hang out every other day to be in touch. I often say that true relationships are never about how often we connect but how genuinely we connect whenever we have the opportunity to.
When a relationship is in a building phase it certainly needs more connectedness but when it has grown stronger, occasional yet genuine connectedness is enough to keep it alive. Just like a plant. In the beginning of its life it is delicate and needs excessive care, but when it becomes a strong tree an occasional rainfall is enough to make it stand enough at its place.
I have some friends for more than a decade and some for more than two decades. I do not get time to connect with them often. Nevertheless, whenever we have conversation it is like we never had any distances, neither of time or of space. As if we have been connected without any discontinuation.
I consider myself pretty fortunate for having true friends in my life who stand by me during difficult times. Nevertheless, it does not mean that I never encountered with toxic people.
On the name of friendship I have come across with noxious individuals too whom I felt detrimental to my overall wellbeing. However, I learnt my lessons from the experience. Not only I cut ties with them but also became more cautions in building relationship in the future.
Conclusively, in general friendliness is a trait of my personality. Nevertheless, I am quite selective about whom I call my friend. I want me to be a source of positivity for others; and in order to maintain positivity in my it is crucial to surround myself with positive people.
This post is my participation for Hl-featured prompt.
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