Pressure everywhere: How I overcome societal pressures.

in Hive Learners10 months ago

Life is multidimensional. There are times when it throws stones at us and there are times when it throws roses at us. Either of which life throws at us, what matters most is that we are prepared to face the outcome when it comes to us. Life can't keep going smoothly.

There is this saying that where your power, knowledge, riches, and whatever you have in life ends, is where someone else begins. So the fact remains that way and that’s one of the things that makes life interesting and unequal to everyone of us.

There are times when we also fall into pressures. Family pressure, Financial pressures, peer pressures, societal pressures and a lot more. But what matters most is how we get up from all of these pressures, not allowing them to weigh us down. If we should allow them to weigh us down there is a higher chance that getting up from the fall won't come with ease anymore.

Most times I see all of these pressures as something temporary. Only if we believe that it’s something that will come and go. Take for example, peer pressure, back then when we were younger we feel the urge to live a life similar to that of our peer group, despite the fact that we know we are not from the same family background, we are not of same birthday and place, we are totally different individuals but peer groups brought us together.

This pressure is what pushes a lot into a pit of no return. When they want to live a kind of life their friends are living. But once we realize that we are not the same and we have our differences, then life just got 80% easier.

A question that comes to mind is where are those mates of ours now? Those we studied together at elementary level? Those we studied together at the basic level? Those at the tertiary level? Where are they now? Are we still together like we were then? Or has everyone gone their own ways?

Same thing applies to every other form of pressure. We should ask ourselves these questions in response to the kind of pressure we are facing at the moment.

Societal pressure are pressures and expectations that come from the entire community or some part of the community. They are things they expect to have seen within us at some certain period in one’s lifetime and if all of these things are not met, then they begin to mount pressure on us. Examples like getting married, child bearing, building a family and a home, getting a job and many more.

All of these are what the society will want from us at some period of time, the pressure will keep coming slowly till the force weighs. But we just have to know the fact that we are all different.

On my end, i have experienced some kind of societal pressure about getting married. But I don't really care, I will just do my thing my own way. The funny part about it is that when you indulge yourself into all of this stuff they are expecting from you, they will cheer with you from a distance, and when they see you sinking no one will get closer.

So we have to be wiser when it comes to making our life decisions, suppressing life pressure in any form. We should just live our lives fulfilling our different purposes.



This is my response to the hive learners community weekly featured content on hive for the week 98 edition 2 and the topic to be discussed is SOCIETAL PRESSURE


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Honestly, it takes a while for us to discover the uniqueness in us all but once we're able to identify that fact, life really gets a whole lot easier and we stop the comparison

Yeah that’s just it. Realizing that on time matters a lot

Hahaha 😂. You got me laughing loud while reading. The society will indeed watch you sink from a distance and they will still say that you have failed.
Thanks for sharing

😂. That’s it oo. Abi if I marry now and I can’t afford to feed my family. Will they come to my rescue? 😂 Yeye society

This is definitely true, sooner or later we grow past all forms of pressure and it's indeed something temporary. I believe it's because we get more mature as time goes on and life experiences let us know that everything has a time

Yeah that’s it. You got me on point. The more we worry the more the pressure mounts on us

When you fall, when you sink, when you're in your lowest, that's when you know you're alone in this world. Reverse is the case when you make it big.

We just have to do our thing, stay motivated and not allow all these people define our lives.

Thanks for sharing

Right! 💯. We just have to do our thing and be ourselves

Correct

they will cheer with you from a distance, and when they see you sinking no one will get closer.

This is so true of our society which always stands on one side and see people as toys and wanted to treat people as they treat toys and enjoys.

Yeah. We have to be wiser in our decisions and know that we can’t fully trust anyone else than our creator and ourselves. That’s what really matters

Boss, you have said it all, the society will keep pushing you to make choices that seem best to it but when life starts giving you the opposite, those who led you into those things will be nowhere to be found.

We are not equal, our destinies are not the same, I see no reason why we should pressure ourselves to meet up with what is happening around us. Life is a gradual process, we will all get there eventually.

Please don't rush into marriage o, take your time, no one is chasing you abeg

That’s it my brother. 😂. Marriage is not for the weak and not a decision one will just take just like that.

Thanks for the words of encouragement and advices..

You are always welcome my brother

They are not easy to really you know, to take care. We will face a lot of struggles first before we completely overcome it. But as you've said, as long as we want to stand up again, so that it will stop weighing us down, everything will fall into their right places. I mean, it will really start with us, and not from anyone else, US, from me, from ourselves.

On point my dear friend. Even to change the society, then world and the universe. The changes has to start from US.

It’s really not easy as you said. But embracing societal pressures really has pushed a lot of people out of their limits and gifted them with regrets

Societal pressure is indeed inevitable, but if you wouldn't care about them all and enjoy doing things your way, life is so much easier and more fun.

Exactly. We all have our lives to life. Only if we want to submit to pressure.