about three days later, she'd had to go into the ER because of gout.

He responded to my text asking about her, at the end saying

All this was so stupid ....You deserved more respect than I gave to you. It's a very bad habit that I noticed in my 30's so I worked on my faults and thought I had over come this prideful, and selfish attitude. I just wanted you to understand I feel horrible and still you offer to help us. Well would tomorrow be ok (for them to come get their stuff) because of her being in the hospital. I hope its nothing to worry about......And Jerry Thank you...... Pls just let me know.....

So as you know, they didn't come get it all, I took it to them. I happened to be in a discount store yesterday, and saw "Ladies insulated fleece gloves" for about $5.
I already had their detergent and stinky dryer sheets that I'd forgotten, so I took that and the gloves to her yesterday.
She just happened to be coming down the hill as I drove up.
I told her "since you are the one standing out in the cold to support you both, I thought you could at least keep your hands warmer"
She seemed very appreciative
Thank you for commenting Jacob. @futuremind