Some Time Off

in Rant, Complain, Talk2 months ago

Aimee has been under a lot of pressure recently; she is fully qualified as a stylist as of the end of May, and the stress of it really got to her.

She's doing the same days, and hours as when she was a trainee, but now has a lot of responsibility and a ton of stress that comes with that, and the type of work it is. One wrong cut and she could get complaints and would have the guilt of ruining someone's hair.



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Asking For Days To Be Cut

She was looking to drop a day, in order to get some more time to herself, and that we could all spend as a family, as opposed to the few hours we get in the evening.

But, since she's so new as a fully qualified stylist, she was told she had to build up her speed, and experience, even though the pressure of everything has slowed her down, given her some bad anxiety, and in general, been making her miserable.

Close to quitting, we discussed it a good few times, and I'd be in support of whatever decision she made, but did suggest exhausting all possible solutions to the issue, before making any drastic decisions.

After spending so many years studying, and training, it would be a shame to throw it all away, but her mental, and physical health is more important than a job she's starting to dislike. So, it's a bit of a tough call to make.

Some long discussions and a lot of thinking led her to make a trip to the doctors, to see if they could potentially sign her off for one day. She was honest with them about her situation, and the doctor actually gave her 2 weeks off, to get herself together, and just de-stress in general.


First Week Off

It has been really good for her so far. The days I was off were great, and we were able to spend some great time together as a family, taking Kaleb out, and in general just relaxing.

It's kind of funny, she has been trying to cut her time, as I've been taking more time in work, picking up any days, or hours that are available to take. I enjoy what I'm doing, even though in the back of my mind, I don't like not being able to have more time to spend as a unit.

This last week has been great though. Aimee has gotten back into her art/embroidery and has some cool canvases she's working on at the moment. To be honest, she could easily sell the stuff she makes, but she just gives it all away to friends and family.

Other than doing her hobbies again, we've been able to spend a few days out with Kaleb, which is also great. Usually, we take him out singly, depending on the weather, and what days we're both in. We don't get a lot of time off together, so making the most of it has been really good.

She is going to have another meeting with the doctor after this time off, and see if there is a way to have herself marked down for an extra day off a week; fingers crossed that she can. Nothing is worth running yourself into the ground over.

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I think it’s good that she has completed the work and training and gotten into the working world as a stylist, I guess you could say. The balancing act is always how much time do you spend doing it versus not. I think it’s also hard where she can’t figure out ways to better cope and handle her stress without breaking down. That’s going to be an important skill to have and one that I think she should learn and hone. That way she can better handle these things, as we get older the stresses don’t decrease, they increase for most.

The challenge there though is what is actually good help versus a crock of shit. I think probably military training for handling stressful situations is probably a good way to filter out the bullshit. Look at what the green berets do, or navy seals, or other special force units. With how much time and money the governments spend on their top military units, it’s probably the best info out there!

I’m glad you guys got to spend time together as a family! That’s definitely the most important piece. You are also the man of the house now and taking on more work and responsibility is exactly what we are bred to do through thousands of years of evolution. Lean into it man! The important thing is to be there for the family as much as you can, kaleb for sure but also Aimee. I’ve got a lot of mistakes I’ve made by not doing those things and try to make up for it now, but that’s not always easy after the mistakes are made.

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It’s great that Aimee has time to recharge and enjoy her hobbies. Balancing work and well-being is crucial