Life Update

in Rant, Complain, Talk5 months ago

I haven't done a blog-blog, in a while, so I figured I would write about a few things today and talk about how things have been going in the past couple of weeks/ months.



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Kaleb

The baba is doing great, and he's getting bigger and bolder by the day. He's getting heavy too, which is fairly decent because each day is becoming more of a workout by doing things like throwing him in the air, which he loves, and in general, just carrying him around.

Creche has been great for him, and he seems to have grown up? Grown up, in a baby way at least, I'm not expecting him to go out and get a job anytime soon.

He's more independent to a certain extent. Before, he could tend to be a little bit clingy, and never really entertained himself with his toys and stuff, now though, he's happy to mess around with his stuff, which is nice to see. He's also copying me a lot; for example, he has this dump truck toy, and if I put stuff in it, he copies me and giggles away to himself. He started using that same logic with appliances in the house, he opened the door of the washing machine and threw his ball into it, closed the door and started messing with the dial.

14 months old, and I have no idea where the time has gone so far. It feels like yesterday Aimee told me she was pregnant, before heading down to a gig in town.

The first thing I thought when he was handed to me by the midwife and I looked into his eyes, was that he was going to be mischievous. Well, I was right. He does stuff, that he knows he shouldn't, and it's like he understands that he's being bold, but instead of stopping, he usually just turns around and laughs when he's told to stop. But, if we don't notice what he's doing, he stares at us laughing until we look at him.

We don't let him in between the couches in Aimee's house, and he managed to crawl underneath them when I wasn't looking, and all I heard was his mischievous giggle, and turned to see an eye staring at me as he started laughing. He's smart for a baby.


Work

Work is great, but it's shit, but it's good, but it's bad, I love it, and hate it.

It's grand. Handy job, and great staff, my supervisor is sound, and I love what I'm doing. I just hate that I have to be gone. The money is okay, but nothing to write home about. If I didn't like the people I work with, or the place I'm working, in general, I wouldn't be there.

I have to get buses from Aimee's town and mine, and it sucks. Buses aren't cheap here, so I'm not exactly walking away with as much as I should be.

It's a catch 22, if I work a few days in a row I can stay in my hometown, do my days and go back down; it saves money, and is handy not having to travel, but then I don't get to spend time with Aimee and Kaleb.

If my days are one in, one out, it costs more, but at least we get to spend evenings together.

Aimee is thinking of quitting. She is now fully qualified and working in the salon, but when she tried to cut her days down to four, they refused and said that she has to stay on five for at least 6 to 8 months, to build up experience.

It sucks right now. We're both kind of on different schedules, and don't get many days off together. When we do, it's good, but we end up spending the majority of that time cleaning, organising, and sorting stuff out, so it's not exactly a day off.

I Got An Editing Gig Too Well, technically two.

When I finish at 5, I get some dinner and get onto the computer and edit until about 11/ 12, maybe longer if I have it in me. It's cool to be doing some film work again, and I'm happy that I'm keeping my skills sharp.

It's good to make a bit of extra money too. Only problem is, I can only edit when I'm in my home town, because my office down here is where my PC and everything is.

I'm going to do some editing on my laptop too. All of my early short films/ music videos were edited on it, but the old girl doesn't have too much work left in her at this stage. I'm thinking of making a few upgrades to it, at least then I can work when away from my office.


eBay Shizz

I want a side hustle, so decided to do some eBay selling. All's well, and I have my shipping prices sorted now for the places I'm going to be sending too. It was daunting, but it's done.

There's a lot of stock waiting to be photographed and uploaded, and I was thinking of doing it today, but I'm exhausted.

I took Kaleb up to my home town with me, I was working yesterday but was off today. I was hoping to get some stuff done, but it didn't happen the way I'd planned.

He woke up at 6:20 AM, and wouldn't go back to sleep, even after a bottle and a change. I only went to sleep around 1 or 2, so I'm kind of running on empty. He slept for about 2 hours after we went out to the park. While he slept I had something to eat and didn't bring myself to do anything else.

I'm at work tomorrow until 5, and Aimee should get in around 7. My mum and dad are going to mind him for the day until I get back.

Me and Aimee started watching Breaking Bad, which is a cool show. We can only watch about 1 episode a night though after Kaleb goes to sleep, because we're both fairly exhausted at this point.


In general, all is well. My posting here on Hive has remained daily, and I've been earning a good bit. I recently passed 16k HP, which is amazing.

I feel, in a way, that I'm doing too much, but I also feel like I'm not really achieving anything. There are a few things I really want to do, outside of the stuff I'm doing now, and I'm not getting any of it done. That kind of sucks, to be honest.

But, all in all, I can't really complain too much.

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I remember those days man, they are tough and tiring but they are also great watching the little youngster grow and develop. It goes by so fast when you look back and think about it! I feel like it was just a year ago that my son was roaming around babbling and stuff, but that was years ago at this point. It’s all wonderful stuff!

I saw another comment from Steve but wanted to add a bit to it. One thing I implore you to do is stay off phones yourselves when you’re with him. I’ve kept off my phone 95% of the time I’m with my son and it has paid off so much in the long run. I feel like I’ve got a closer relationship with him because of it, he gets my full attention unless I’m working and that’s what they deserve. When they go to bed certainly mess around on your phone but if the little dude is watching you, make sure to not be on your phone! Especially at this age, it’s wild what they absorb and remember to then develop into their minds and stuff as they get older.

On the work side - just make sure to take some time for your mind to relax when you can. It sounds like you’re doing a lot which is good, and the right thing to do as a man with a child that relies on you, but at the same time you don’t want to collapse from overwork and exhaustion. Just try to get a break here and there! Even one night helps.

Yeah, I really feel amazed looking back at old baby photos of him when he was a newborn compared to now, it's like we didn't notice it happening but he has become so much bigger now.

I've been doing that too, as much as I can at least, I seem to have to make a conscious effort not to look at my phone though, because it's almost like my brain wired to instantly go to it when I lose my train of thought and have a blank out for a moment. But, you're so right man, setting it aside would be the best thing to do.

It's hard sometimes because there's so much that needs to be done, but that's true, there's no point in overdoing it. I was afraid of getting burnt out or something, before, but I've still managed to keep going. I think I'll take your advice though and cool it a bit.

Enjoy every moment with your kid as they grow up so fast. You have to watch out for them getting bad habits as they will keep doing things even if they wind you up. It's all an adventure. I'm not sure it's a good idea to get them hooked on screens too young. Mine didn't have that so much as we didn't have smartphones or tablets then (others did). They will be just as happy with actual toys.

I hope life treats you well.

!PIZZA

Great advice - it's crucial to keep the kids away from screens! TV is a little harder but phones and tablets for sure!

That's one thing me and Aimee decided, we'd like him to not get hooked on phones or tv or anything like that. These days it's hard to avoid, so all we can really do is play with him and show him that he can have more fun playing with his toys.

I've loved it man, it has been an amazing experience.

!LOL

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 5 months ago Reveal Comment

Kaleb did have the mischievous glint in his eye the first time I saw him so it's nice seeing him live up to that. Sending lots of !LUV to our little champ.

And I get how it feels like you're doing so many things but nothing at all at the same time cause the things you really want to do aren't feasible at the moment. I believe it'll get better though so...

Congratulations to you on 16k btw.🌺

He honestly did, it was the first thing I thought when I saw him, and he's certainly living up to it now. He's a bit of a daredevil at the moment, and we're kind of hoping he chills out a bit because he seems to have no fear.

Yeah, everything will work out just fine, I think I just need to reevaluate everything and figure out some sort of daily/ weekly plan for everything.

 5 months ago Reveal Comment