Marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman to become husband and wife was the definition we were given back in primary school
I don't think so because I think it's more than what it captures here and the recent happenings and marital problems attests that there's definitely more to it...
Marriage determines a lot of things for the parties involved... It literally defines your life and determines the extent you'll go in life.
This is why marriage shouldn't be taken likely and anyone going into one should genuinely sit down and ask himself or herself if the decision they're making is really what they want and especially with the right person who's compatible to them.
It doesn't just end with saying I do I do and posting on social medias going to the beaches and having sumptuous dinners at the top ranking restaurants.... There's more to it my dear.
Times have changed indeed and it's not changing for good in some aspects and that includes marriage...
Back in the days or as history made it look, people marry not because of money but rather love (not denying the fact that there are still many reasons for marriage then) but nowadays, people marry just because of money.
Once there's money, they feel it's okay to get married.
People get in marriage having divorce as their plan B once things don't go as planned and so on and so forth...
All these things are just pointers to us that there is something we aren't doing right before jumping on the train of marriage because that isn't how the marriage of our parents are so why is ours so downhill?
Personally, there are factors I would consider before going into marriage and they includes:
- Money:
Obviously, I need to be stable enough before going into marriage.
The relevance of money in marriage cannot be overemphasized and it's no news one of the factors against happy family is poverty.
Poverty brings a lot of trouble especially when it's to the level that the family cannot eat a three-squared meal a day because a hungry man is an angry man.
- Love:
No one is perfect and it's not perfection that makes the best of marriages but negligence to some unimportant things and that is why love is very important.
Love covers up for the mistakes we make because definitely there will be moments when we make mistakes and love is what makes the corrections understandable.... Everything won't be a problem where there is love, but in situations where there's no love, you keep hearing them quarrel all day long even when the subject matter is what could have been overlooked.
Love without money isn't enough and money alone without love isn't enough to make a happy home... There ought to be a balance and those are the major criteria I'm looking up to for marriage.
Thanks for reading and have a nice day ahead 👍
