Priorities

in HiveGhana11 months ago

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Marriage is one important rite of passage anywhere in the world, the difference is the attitude towards it. We like to force things without due consideration in this part of the world that's why the pressure to get married is more here.

When it comes to marriage, individual preference should be carefully studied before saying the big yes. Whatever reason it is that prompted one's decision to get married is valid, provided it is communicated and agreed upon by both parties getting involved. The reason for getting married should be carefully discussed and understood by both partners to avoid conflicting interest.

As an adult who has had a fair share of relationships the importance of finance in sustainability and having someone stand by you when you are financially down can never be overemphasized.

Talking about money and love, I do not think we can separate one from the other because Loving is giving. People are committed to investing where their heart lies.

While money is more important to me, love should not be completely ruled out from the equation because when it comes to providing the basic necessities for survival, money does that but love is the motivation by which the provision of money for survival is made availabl. I don't think anyone would spend on anything or any individual they are not passionate about.

The economic trend also greatly determines between love and money which gets prioritized.

Back then, individuals could prioritize love because there was really little one could do with money. There was no education, there was no utility bill and human existence was self sustaining, people cultivate what they eat and get the water they drink from rivers, stream etc.

The population was minimal and the available resources could go round. Now we have too many people struggling to survive. The living condition has deteriorated such that women are now forced to work as hard as their male counterpart just so the home can be financial stable.

At first love will seem like the most important, but the more responsibilities build up without being sorted out, the less attractive love becomes. In the right environment love will grow but in a struggling environment it will wither.

Aside these two factors money and love, I find understanding to be another important factor to consider before going into marriage. How well do I understand my partner? how well does he understands me? Marriage is two people from different backgrounds and different opinions about life coming together, getting along would be near impossible if the union lacks understanding.

In my opinion, these three keys Money, Love and Understanding are the foothold of any marriage.

While love breeds commitment and trust, understanding breeds communication with compromise and Money is the big brother that makes almost all the problem go away.

It takes the careful combination of ingredients in the right proportion for a pot of soup to be made and edible, that is marriage and the three keys.

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You've said it all. People prioritized love in the old days just because of how simple the economy was back then. I mean, any man is seen as a good husband material if he owns a farm where he gets foodstuffs from. The same can't be said today where money is needed to meet daily needs

Thank you, even as little as the vegetables we eat, we buy them and it's not even cheap

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That’s a valid reason and argument about why love was prioritized back in the days
It’s so true and thank you for bringing my mind to it.

Thank you for stopping by 🙂.

You’re welcome

Love and money works hand in hand, you need both to make a relationship work perfectly.

Yes they are intertwined. One cannot exist without the other.

I love your last paragraphs, I see a lot of failed marriages and I think this should be part of marriage counseling..

Thank you, hopefully they get the awareness 🙂

Thank you dear for bringing it our notice the olden days love then it will be very hard to find broken home because the love is not built on Money.

naah.. they had basically the necessities for survival at their farmlands and even backyard. No education, no electricity mo rent so lack of money was basically the least thing to get anyone frustrated. Thank you for stopping by

You are welcome

Understanding is huge as is communication!
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it actually is... thank you for popping in 😀

You have said it all dear.
When there is no money, the love won't go well.
But money shouldn't be the priority.

Yes dear, moderation is key.

Exactly 💯

Talking about money and love, I do not think we can separate one from the other because Loving is giving. People are committed to investing where their heart lies.

I totally agree with this, love and giving works together, you can't claim to love someone without giving.

#dreemerforlife

Yes. Someone that is inlove will not mind sacrificing the last money in their possession just to see the other happy. It is not foolishness but love. Thank you for stopping by.

Love and money goes hand in hand in the subject of marriage. It is wrong to go into marriage holding unto love alone, the days have changed money now rules the world, unless one wants to have a home that will be shaking in the end of the day else both money and love should be well considered before embarking on the journey.

I came across this post on Dreemport

@bipolar-29, you've created an elegant post. 🏹

The voice of experience ring through to the last words.

Keep going!
Much love!! 🥰

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