I’ve been into romantic relationships and I’m familiar with one of the major questions that are usually being asked. One common question that people ask is how old are you?. Well, this is never a bad question. It’s a good thing to know the age of the person you’d be going into a relationship with and maybe get to know their birth months so that you can plan a surprise party or at least wish the person a happy birthday on that day.
Age is one of the major issues in relationships. Age can be nothing but numbers but at the same time, age can be meaningless. Let me use the Northern part of Nigeria as an example. It is possible to see a sixty year old man wanting to get married to a child who is not even up to eighteen or a child who can be called an adult. Unfortunately, that child has no choice because her parents would want her to get married to that old man.
In this case, age matters a lot. Let’s even forget the fact that the child may be forced into marriage. The age difference between seventeen and sixty is a lot. It’s just going to look like that young girl is being deprived of freedom at her youthful age.
Getting married to an old man like that will automatically make you start thinking like an old person whether you like it or not but it is simply because you roll with an old person every now and then and instead of you to go to clubs, have fun, wear some kind of dresses in your youthful age, you are being deprived from all of those. That’s for that case though. A lot of people love to get married or be in a relationship with older people just like me. As long as you are ready to settle for the vibe and things you are likely to experience in that relationship, you’re good to go.
Do I think that couples should be within a set age bracket?
I don’t think this should be done. If this ever happens, a lot of people may not get married. I would not want to say that this world has turned upside down but I’d give instances with the things that are happening.
Sometimes, we see women or men who get married to someone twenty years younger than them and they are living happily. Don’t you think if there is an age bracket, they will be deprived their opportunity to get married to the person they want? What may sound very absurd to us may be appealing to someone else.
As for me now, I’m praying to get married to someone very much older than me maybe twelve years difference. That’s what I want and I like it that way. So imagine there is an age bracket, do you think I’d get married to that person I want?
Or Should Everyone Be Liberal And Not Care About The Age Difference?
Yes, why not? Everyone should be able to make decisions for themselves. If they decide to make laws about age bracket, a lot of people may not get married.
Let’s leave things the way they are even though it feels awkward in some aspects or situations.
We are adults and we should be able to choose!
