You said it all dear...
It's people's choice if they want to mount pressure but our reactions is what matters because that's what affect us either positively or negatively, we should learn to feign ignorance then make sure we do the right thing we can..
For being the first born at home, sincerely it isn't easy at all because all eyes are on you but I've learnt to embrace peace of mind oo my dear... Despite not the first born of the house but eventually carried the load of the first, I can relate what it means but las las na to do watin you fit do oo my dear.. you know you gotta be healthy emotionally, psychologically and physically to even keep the family going..