Undoubtedly, our phones are important to us but our family are more important. While our phones can do a lot of things for us, it can not give us a family, they will always be one of a kind for us. So do we make our family be in an invisible competition with our phones?
The time we spend with family can vary in every family, some find it annoying because the members use that as a chance to cause more problems and for some, it is a time they bond happily and things take off even better for them.
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If I must share about our phones being used during family time, I'll love to point out a fact... Would anyone want to use their phone during family time if there was a rule on ground against it? What if using the phone is an escape from the troubles family time brings?
For the rules, I've been in a home where they had the rule active and it worked on everyone for sometime but gradually, even the rule maker began to break it without realising and so, we just kept using our phones whenever. It's funny how I even got the habit of using my phone while I eat so I could eat a lot, what a bad habit that was!
Today, we see a family where even the youngest have a capable phone to do a lot of things. I feel this is what gives access to children to grow the habit of using their phones whenever although there can be created limitations to help curb the use during family time.
Well, I wasn't opportune to learn not to use my phone during family time except when we have serious matters to discuss and we didn't see any problem with it. Although I could feel it weakening our family bond but not one to be worried about as we are all finding ways to be together while we are at it.
Why do I say this? It's a bit sad but it doesn't mean I don't enjoy the time spent with my family. I only wish it was much better.
Look at this picture, would any member of the family in this mood want to find their phone except they get a call which could also be ignored because the fun is there and they are appreciating the presence of each other. A family time should be one anyone should have no excuse to avoid.
I know of a family that their family time is their quarrel time, there is never a quiet time when they are complete in the house except they are all busy on their phones or personal businesses and work. Would I say they don't love each other or don't appreciate each other? No but they could do better if they want to.
Family time should be made memorable for everyone, so they won't have time for their phones. This is hard to accomplish when there is too much to worry about but if it succeeds, it helps relieves the worries and the bond will grow stronger.
I doubt I'll have a strong rule against the use of phone during family time, I just need to make my family time one that they will have no time for their phones except on very important things at a particular point in time.
