Greetings!
I once came across a discussion on Facebook where someone jokingly called out whosoever that introduced the idea of age gap in marriages and relationships especially the idea of 'the husband must be older than the wife'.
Well, even though it was all joke with all the comments that were attached with it, I saw a deep meaning there because I don't think I've ever read in the religious book that man should be older. Okay, if it's there, it means I haven't paid attention to it.
I kept wondering, who initiated this idea in the first place where the man should be older than the wife? Some may argue it's to ensure the woman accords maximum respect to the man. In Africa, younger ones respect their elders, so this could hold true for Africans. However, we've seen cases where a woman respects a man she's older than. Incase you haven't seen, I've seen.
The truth is, we are all living by the laws and standards we set for ourselves, and gradually, these norms have influenced our minds and they seem very perfect.
I'm no exception; I've pondered the age gap in relationships many times, and I've never imagined myself in a relationship where the woman is older than me. I would feel as though I'm doing something wrong. You can't blame me; I've been influenced by the norms we've set for ourselves.
Is there a perfect age gap for couples?
Three Sundays ago, I was officiating outside in church with a lady, and we started discussing marriage. She mentioned that it's foolish for guys to seek younger girls rather than marrying someone their age. The way she said it suggested she may have been turned down by a guy due to age, though I didn't ask her about it. She's 23, turning 24 in September, and I wonder about the age of the guy who turned her down. She also mentioned spiritual parents who married their age mates and are doing well.
I was so careful in replying her because I didn't want her to put me on the spot. Before then, I didn't know her age and I was thinking maybe she's up to 26years already.
To me, there's no fixed number of years for a gap. All I know is that the man should be older than the woman with a reasonable age difference. I don't see a 1-year difference as a significant gap. If you examine a 1-year difference closely, it often isn't even a full year, especially when considering the days in each month. Lol😂
While writing this, I asked a friend that was closeby if he would marry someone older than him or if there's an age limit he would consider. He said age doesn't matter as long as it's not visibly affecting the woman's appearance. In other words, as long as she doesn't look significantly older, he's okay with it.
Wow! Wow!
Let me stop here.
Thanks for reading.
