I come with a reflection...

Undoubtedly, sometimes Cupid needs help too!

And it seems that as for love, it passes us by on one side, and does not even look at us. Cupid becomes elusive to us, as if no arrow was meant to point at us.😍

And then comes the frustration. Yes, we often feel lost as to whether we are taking the right steps that lead us to the path to love.

We are stumbling, stumbling from love to love, from relationship to relationship, and our self-esteem is hurt, which complicates our existence because we do not always learn from our broken heart.

It is essential to learn from him, so as not to fuck with the hearts of others.

And the cycle repeats itself: we give ourselves, we love, we trust, we disappoint each other, we break up, and in that back and forth between one love and another, we lose hope of a true love.

Solution? 🔆

We start by loving ourselves. Being yourself is the love we seek. I am totally convinced that the first love of our life has to be with ourselves.

From the point of view and for our mental health, we love ourselves first so that we can really be the best partner for someone.

When one loves oneself it is because we accept ourselves, we respect ourselves and because somehow, we understand that we really deserve to love and be loved.

So, from there, yes we can start looking for a partner, yes we can look for a love, look for a relationship that really nourishes us, and makes us happy. That is why I will always insist that the first love has to be first towards oneself.

Love is fought and nurtured... But one does NOT suffer, because to live suffering for love is not life, it is self-punishment... true love makes us grow, surpasses us, does not stagnate us or minimize us.

Lately everything I see, hear and read about love is for life, it is generating a lot of controversy, and I see a lot of people talking from their frustrations, heart wounds and experiences.

Love should flow naturally and harmoniously. When we face difficulties in love, we usually reflect the wounds or attachments that we carry inside, not the love itself. Perhaps the key is to work on ourselves, heal those parts and allow love to be what it really is: peace, connection and freedom.

I have always thought and I have said it in some of my many posts that I write daily in this community, is that many times couple problems are really individual, emotional problems that we have been dragging and end up affecting the relationship.

In fact, love is a building under permanent construction. You decide what kind of building you want to live in..., we try it with solid foundations and go putting pretty, or just let it deteriorate.

Of course, there are cases of cases, where NOT only DO YOU NOT have to fight, but you have to rush out of that bad love without regard. One never fights for a "bad love", for a relationship where unhappiness, drama and abuse are present. Have you already found love or are you still looking for it? Let's talk in comments.

Janitze 🌹