Días después lo entendí con claridad a través de una experiencia laboral, recuerdo que en ésa época trabajaba para una empresa y mi jefa inmediata me daba unas explicaciones del trabajo y de repente soltó algo así como:

Oye Yen, discúlpame pero tengo que decirte algo y si te ofende pues lo siento, pero realmente lo tengo que decir porque lo tengo atragantado desde hace tiempo en la garganta:

Me pareces una persona sumamente antipática, engreída, te crees la gran cosa, si eres muy honesta, responsable y puntual, pero realmente no entiendo porque tienes que a juro estar ganándote la simpatía de los gerentes, encima de ellos para caer bien, blah blah, blah ajá discúlpame… lo tenía que decir.

Mi respuesta fue un contundente:

¡Gracias!

🔴No, no te vayas a molestar, discúlpame si te ofendí…
➡️No, no me ofende, para nada , al contrario, se lo agradezco mucho, hasta me me contento pues, primera vez que le caigo mal a alguien, ojo no es sarcasmo, es en serio…

🔴¡Si te creo!

A pesar de qué le dije eso a los días esto me afectó un poco, se lo comenté a la profesora ya que como les dije anteriormente, ella era psicóloga y quería saber su punto de vista, con mucha pena se lo dije y no en privado precisamente sino en compañía de varias compañeras de estudio porque esas mujeres no dejaban en paz a esa profesora por sus sabios consejos, a lo cual ella me dijo:

✅¡Excelente respuesta!

¡Chinita! (Así me decía por cariño) no te angusties, no es contigo, no lo tomes personal, ella se reflejó en ti, ella vio en ti lo que ella es, esas palabras hirientes es lo que ella siente de ella misma, esas son las neuronas espejo, tu respuesta fue la mas acertada…

Todas las presentes quedaron muy asombradas y me dieron mucho ánimo, aunque mi estima es alta en ése momento si me cayó un poco mal, quizás ahora que lo pienso, en ese momento económicamente no me iba bien y algún que otro problema personal que en el momento no le conseguía solución hacía que me afectara.

GRACIAS A DIOS QUE TODO LO PUEDE, todo se solucionó porque todo es temporal, de ese empleo me salí por la puerta grande tiempo después, renunciando en buena lid, mis tiempos realmente mejoraron en todo sentido.

Realmente no me preocupo como quiero que me vean, me preocupa es como me veo y me siento yo cada día y que hago para mejorar, porque si me empeño en saber como quiero que me vean los demás nunca lograré con algo acertado o beneficioso porque cada persona es un mundo y tiene una forma de ver las cosas, solo conociéndome podrán dar una opinión de mi persona.

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2️⃣ How do people see you? How would you like to be seen?

Years ago in a significant diploma that I studied, in a class, a teacher (who was a psychologist) did a dynamic where she formed several groups of four people each, and each person in each group had to see the photos of their classmates' license and say in one word what I thought about the first impression I gave him in that photo.

When the dynamic began, several people were laughing because they were joking about how this or that classmate looked and the teacher emphasized again to make them understand or explain better:

Look at your partner's photo as if you don't know him, as if you were seeing him for the first time. What impression does it give you? Say it in a single word... that was several minutes of absolute silence, if I'm wrong he gave us five minutes where each of us had to see 4 photos of the classmates in our group and so on, they rotated the photos until we had all seen everyone's photos.

My curiosity increased because I had never particularly considered what they might think of me, it is something that I did not honestly ask myself much, not even when I was in basic school or high school, this dynamic was presented at a high level. studies now in my adulthood, when it was my turn that the teacher had my photo in her hands, most of the pieces of paper said the following about me, she is:

1. GIRL
2. PRETTY
3. SAD
4. TENDER
5. WEAK

Wow that surprised me!

the word girl not so much, first I always represented much less than the age I was, which benefited me a lot, second, my tone of voice even on the telephone is of a pleasant kind but the words SAD OR WEAK that did surprise me I thought ( But if I am not a sad person, I am and I have a delighted and weak family, I am not a strong, responsible, tenacious woman!)…

At the end of this dynamic, the teacher explained that what we saw in the first impression made was nothing but the perception of ourselves, we saw ourselves reflected in each one of them, that we had to know each of the people well in depth to give an opinion. valid opinion and speak appropriately.

Days later I understood it clearly through a work experience, I remember that at that time I worked for a company and my immediate boss gave me some explanations about the job and suddenly she said something like:

Hey Yen, excuse me but I have to tell you something and if it offends you then I'm sorry, but I have to say it because I've had it stuck in my throat for a long time:

You seem like an extremely unfriendly, conceited person to me, if you are very honest, responsible and punctual, it is true, I admit it, but I don't understand why you think you are superior to others, you always want to be well no matter what, blah blah, blah excuse me... I had to say.

My response was forceful:

Thank you!

🔴No, don't be upset, sorry if I offended you...
➡️No, it doesn't offend me, not at all, on the contrary, I appreciate it very much, I'm even happy because, the first time that someone doesn't like me, be careful, it's not sarcasm, it's serious...

🔴Yes I believe you!

Even though I told her that a few days later, this affected me a little. I mentioned it to the teacher because, as I told you before, she was a psychologist and wanted to know her point of view. It was with great sadness that I told her and not in private. precisely but in the company of several fellow students because those women did not leave that teacher alone for her wise advice, to which she told me:

✅Excellent response!

Dear! Do not be distressed, it is not with you, do not take it personally, she reflected herself in you, she saw in you what she is, those hurtful words are what she feels about herself, those are the mirror neurons, your response was more accurate...

All those present were very surprised and gave me a lot of encouragement, although my esteem was high at that time, it did feel a little bad for me, perhaps now that I think about it, at that time I was not doing well financially and there were some other personal problems that in the At the moment I couldn't find a solution, it affected me.

THANK GOD WHO CAN EVERYTHING, everything was solved because everything is temporary, I left that job with a bang sometime later, resigning in good faith, and my times improved in every way.

I don't worry about how I want to be seen, I'm worried about how I look and feel every day and what I do to improve, because if I insist on knowing how I want others to see me I will never achieve anything successful or beneficial because every person is a world and has a way of seeing things, only by knowing me will you be able to give an opinion about me.

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