I don't know if you're familiar with this name, Apostles Femi Lazarus.
He did say something in one of his messages that resonated well with my ideology about the concept of giving. He said and I quote,
"Don't give out aids to the extent that, you will need the same aid"....

@young-tari I think is it just it for me,my guiding principles towards giving although,I had to learn this in an hard way.