I personally think self-sabotage could be defined as conscious or unconscious behaviors or actions that can undermine one's wellbeing, goals, or success, and this most often than not comes in forms like ideas, thought patterns, or actions that lead to mostly unfavorable outcomes. Some of those examples are procrastination, fears, past experiences, low self-esteem, etc.
Life can mostly be an unpredictable journey that's filled with ups and downs. There are moments where we soar higher and are filled with the warmth of joy and success, and there are other days when we find ourselves going through a depth of hopelessness and uncertainty.
There are times I find myself self-sabotaging, not because I want to, but because it mostly happens unconsciously. I get tired and weary mostly when I am unable to achieve a particular goal. While there are times I procrastinate on achieving some things, either due to laziness or past experiences,.
Sometime last year, I set a lot of goals for myself, but towards the month of October, I realized I had not achieved most of them. I was discouraged, and a lot of negative thoughts kept running through my mind. I was discouraged and sad, and it affected my mood negatively. It was easy for someone who doesn't know me to look at me and immensely know that something was wrong with me.
I know somehow most people have also unconsciously found themselves self-sabotaging, but I think there are a few things we can do to help ourselves, which is
Setting realistic goals: For me this year, I refuse to be put under unnecessary pressure, so I break down my goals into smaller and more achievable steps and also set a realistic timeline.
learn from past experiences: because I am concerned about my well-being and have learned from my past experiences, I am seeing my failures as opportunities for growth and relearning and am using them to improve my future decisions and actions.
Be consistent: Try as much as possible to be consistent with improving yourself, though overcoming self-sabotage takes time and effort. Try to be patient with yourself.
Seek support: this is very important. Reach out to close and trusted friends, relatives, or a therapist if you can share your struggles and goals with someone who can offer help and accountability.
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