Knowing when to set boundaries is very vital. Humans would always remain human, not matter, as one with instinct to avert the issue and bring about the change, that is required, one most know when to set that boundaries.
I wouldn't say that extending a financial handshake to the people is not wrong. Many people give to make sure that they up left others.
But the question, I would want us to look out here and consider as the point of this article, is what sets of individuals should one give a financial help?
At what time should one render a financial assistant
to others?
Do they these people deserve it? And at what point of your leave should one give some specific kind of financial help?
Let me work with these few questions of mine, to put my points. Given financial assistance to people, is humanly divine and sacrosanct.
Everyone needs financial help, but givers should know who deserves the help (purpose for giving that help) is this person going to use it for business, or investment that would bring him or her to financial freedom?
In the case, if you have the money, it is advised to give. Knowing fully well what the person wants to do with the money. Some individuals would come to me for loan, and of course, I don't loan, I give and forget about it.
So someone came to my house a few days ago, for financial assistance, so I asked what the person wanted to use the money for?
And the person said for something×. That was the response, for something. I didn't give it my consent, and the money requested for because the person doesn't have anything, wants to do with the money. At that point, I set that boundary.
Because they knew I would give them the money, but for the fact that they didn't state the reason for which they wanted the money for, made me set in that boundaries. So when it comes to issues and people like this, one should set in the boundary of saying no.
Or come back after a few weeks, of course, I am a busy man, so he shouldn't expect to see me.
Another time to set in a boundary is what you have given, and the person is not careful with investing it wisely. I am a man by God's grace that believes in the saying * show me how to finish*
In the case where I don't have, I can't talk to people I trust about you, sure the person would get help. But when you get help from me twice without investing it or asking me how to invest the money.
If the money finish, I won't give any more help to such a person again. I would set that resistance boundary so high because, I care about my financial feature and my financial life too.
Moreover, if I meet someone who always asks for money to feed, without declaring their intentions to venture into any kind of business of their choice. Who sees me as a pox? Where they can always run to, and I noticed this kind of person for a long time; I will stop giving.
It is considered they are not serious person in life, and the boundary I would set will be so high for these kinds of individuals. So when it gets to this point, I stop giving. I even scare them away.
Family is significant, one should consider his or her immediate family no matter the situation, they are your hope during your downtimes.
Some individuals in the family are naturally lazy, many of which, no matter how you invest in their lives, they tend to offend you. By lavishly spending the money ill-mannered way.
I feel in the family case, we should be more considerate, more specially the immediate family. Why I say so is because, how you should treat an outsider, should be slightly different from your immediate family.
However, there is still a room to set boundaries, when it is time to, but family members are the most dangerous people. I am not sounding, either, hostile. Some people in our family, including some siblings, can drain you and still mock at you.
They are the first to throw stones at us, even when we try are best. I can only do my best. Leaving the rest for them. If I have siblings who don't deserve a third chance, after too many attempts.
Should I set the boundaries, yes. Hence, my parents have been taking care off, at least it is happening in their eyes, and they could bear me witness, that I am doing my best to carry everyone along. I will just continue with looking after my parents.
As for the unserious ones, being that they are family members, I won't deny them of money for feeding because I know it won't last for long. That's the highest boundaries I can set when it comes to immediate family, preferably here.
I have faced a downtime, terrible ones, so if someone tells me about it, I size myself in it, I feel the brunt because I have been in that spot.
And I wasn't comfortable with it, I applied all the rules I have mentioned to make sure I got help, all I am writing here is what the people who helped me told me.
Chief, Olisa told me, I will never forget him, even in death, told me, that he was going to help me, and he did because I stated my reasons. I went to him after passing through miseries, tight downtimes. I was determined to grow, and he invested in my life.
By God's grace, I understand what poverty is, how it can drain a man, that is why I vow to open to help. But you most state the reason for needing that help because that would enable me to set a time frame for you, I am going to call it over.
Over in the sense that, you have reached a point to be financially free, if by mismanagement you lavish it, I am not going to give such a person shi-shi again. My cob, toro, and penny won't enter so a person hands again.
Because if I continue, I would run dry, and I am not ready to fall or run dry because I want to lift unserious people up, no that would be a significant stupidity from me.
In summary, helping is not a crime, but when people don't deserve it, and you pushed within your strength, remember, that you had passed through the same issue and did learn your lesson.
Remember, you should set a boundary at this point where you have done what you can. Because giving someone financial help, we only do what we can, leaving the people to do their best with the help gotten.
Of course, one can only try not do all people want us to.
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