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The journey of life is full of ups and downs and it's the violent that taketh it by force. What this means, is that good things will never want you to do it, but by determination and consistency, one can achieve great things in life no matter what the odd maybe. Another thing about life is that, life will not give you what you deserve or desire and for this reason, you must strive to get what you deserve and desire so as not for you to expire when you're expected to soar like eagle and inspire the rest of the world.
Like I said earlier, life will not give you what you deserve and for this reason, you have to employ every arsenal at your disposal attack the situation that may come your way as attack is the best form of defense. One thing I have noticed about self doubt is that it comes due to one thing or the other that has happened in ones life.
Self doubt, which is an act of doubting one's own ability is a cankerworm that has eaten deep into so many people's life. When talking about self doubt, it steals, kills and destroys. Self doubt always come with low self esteem which is the lack of confidence in oneself. It kills hope and destroys vision. But like I said earlier, it used to come into ones life after what one have passed through. That thing may be failure to succeed in ones past endeavors, such as business, marriage, a particular project just to mention but a few.
So, this week prompt took me back to those situations that led me to doubting my ability. Sometimes ago, I was starting my life on a good note, though very young at that particular time, but i was able to maneuver my way through investing into many things. Then, i was able to invest my time, energy, money into the course I believe in. Then I was into businesses, invested in buying palm oil, food stuffs, cocoa and farming. I was also in building and everything was going well until I entered into partnership with people thought to be of like mind, not only that, I was also adviced to invest into what I know nothing about. So, as a result of the partnership and the ill advice, I was derailed from my track and as a result, everything started to nose dive, I could not stood my ground again, I began to lose confidence in my ability to doing things, just because of the total collapse of my business empire.
Also, during the time, I was betrayed my the so called partners and everything went awry and there was nothing I could do since I have lost all I laboured for, not only that, I also lost my self esteem and confidence and the believe I had in myself began to waned. What a colossal loss? Then I lost everything and there was nothing to hold on to. Life really happened to me. I that used to be source of inspiration and blessing to others now went into depression and frustration was the order of the day.
Hmmm, after everything that happened as a result of the multiple losses, I lost total confidence in myself and I did not know what next step to take as fear has gripped my soul. The fear of another pending failure gripped my soul and I was afraid to start or reinvest in another business, another fear that gripped my mind was that of partnership and yielding to another piece of advice which I believe could lead to another downfall. In fact during those periods, I was not myself as self doubt has taken over me, I lost total believe in myself and nothing encouraged me anymore. So, with all that happened to me, I decided to went off the grid just to save myself from shame and another impending doom. But thank God, during those time of going off the grid, I was able to find my feet back. How did this happened, it was a friend that called me on a particular day, this friend of mine asked me us to see and it's on a monday, so I promised to meet with him the following weekend, it's when we met that we discussed at length and it's during our discussion that this my friend share similar experience of his with me, he didn't only share his experience with me, but narrated how he overcame his challenges with me, he told me that he overcame his own challenges with determination, he said he was determined not to fail in life as there's no excuse for failure, he said he stood against all odds and attack his fear by trying his luck again and that his luck has yielded him success. When I heard this, I digested it and I took a bold step, I took the bull by the horn and I relaunch myself into the business world this time in a more strategic and calculating manner. Thanks to that my friend that helped me out not only in kind but in cash. So, with the cash and the strategies given to me by him, I was able to summon courage and fight my fear. It's then I knew that no one can live alone, we all need the support of each other.
I came back off the grid and make strategic investment into real estate and buying of shares. I also invested into transportation and this really paid off for me. Though, there were still challenges in my second coming, but I was able to overcome with my gathered experience from my last loss and most importantly, with the help of God.
So, there's no crime in falling, but where the problem lies is not being able to stand again. One thing about life is that, experience is the best teacher, the experience of life cannot kill, but only helps to strengthen one with wisdom to overcome. So, self doubt is real and it should not be taking for granted. Instead of the fear that comes with self doubt, have faith and believe in yourself and by this, you will be able to fight back the fear that is accompanying it and have testimony like that of mine at the end. Thank God , I was able to overcome. If I can overcome my self doubt, you too can overcome your self doubt. Build yourself confidence and relaunch yourself into whatever you want to do and the sky will only be your starting point. So, shun self doubt as it bring hopelessness. But one thing I want us to know is that there's hope for a tree cut down and this because a tree cut down will once again sprout and bring forth fruit.
This is entry to the hivenaija weekly prompt.
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