Greeting to my hive family, parenting as we all know requires knowledge and wisdom, also understanding is of utmost importance too and gradual process with broad experiences from people makes one not a perfect parent but close to a perfect parents. Also, the dynamics of being a parent to a girl or a boy makes it worrisome and this tends from the fact that the way you handle a girl child is quite different from the way you handle a boy child, so, parents must be up and doing in the school of parenting nothing should be carried over . As parents you must be educated, hmmm, what type of education are we talking about here? Well, I'm not talking about getting your certificate in your first, second degree nor the ph.D but must be vast in sexual education and well well certified in the school of parenting. So, this will lead me to the life of a young girl named " Bimpe"
Hmmm! Bimpe was one of my students and my mentee in the year 2004 she was born into a Muslim family in Ila orangun osun state where I taught English Language then. This lady was so fast in her religion and will not joke with all the pillars of her religion. She will fast in the time of Ramadan and would even do her five times prayer per day. Bimpe the cape lady as she was fondly called will not allow any guy to touch her because she believed it was not right but a sin ( haram). As she was vast in her religious activities, my mentee , Bimpe was also vast in her Academics activities coming ontop of her class always and claiming most of the prizes at the end of the session ceremony, she used to come first in her class and the best students in almost all the subjects before the MC calls the name , students would have should Bimpe. Bimple name is on the lip of most of the students in the school, she's the one that used to represent the school in all the competition. The cowbell mathematics has been tagged to her in the school, the honorable Akinfenwa essay competition was her birthright every year. Also, in the extra curricular activities in the school, although she might not be the best, but she's one of best.
Bimple, as good as she was , she was not arrogant but respectful, she was calm and focused, but guess what? On a particular Thursday at one of our Literary and debate programs, Bimple and one boy from SS 2A were representing their class in a debate with the topic " Teachers are better than doctor" and as the competition was at the climax, Bimple collapsed to the ground and there was commotion everywhere, people were running from pillar to post to ascertain what was really happening but thank God, there was a primary health centre very close to our school, we the teachers quickly rushed Bimpe to the centre but before then, we've given her first aid treatment but on getting to the hospital, Bimpe was quickly attended to because she was the favourite of all, but when those tests were run on her, lol and behold, hmmm! Bimpe! Bimple! What happened ? Was the question the matron was asking her, people could not believe what has happened to our pride at the community school the management and staff including her closed friends were caught by surprise and disappointments were well written on the faces of everybody. Hmmm, tears were rolling down like a running river from Bimpe's cheek and people around her were moved to join her . She too could not explain , although the deed has been done, she was stabilized and I as her mentor took her to a lonely place as advised by my colleagues. I asked her series of questions and she opened up, she said, it was her first time of having sexual intercourse that led to the pregnancy, hmmm, your first time, she said yes, who impregnated you was my second question, at first she felt reluctant but I told her that the deed has been done but that the only thing is to look for the way out, she said it's Mr Ayankunle Ismael haaa, Mr Ayankunle! I echoed, the geography teacher, how come? She said it's after school hour when she took a question to him that everything happened, I stood still for minutes and I couldn't say anything.
Immediately we both stepped out together, people were waiting for us and we all left the health centre for the school principal's office when we got there, Bimpe and I and the principal were left alone and I narrated everything to the principal and immediately the principal heard this, he called for the parents and the teacher involved. What happened?
Now, this is the start of the whole scenario, when Alhaji Abdulganiy came and his wife Alhaja Saratu, the principal narrated everything thing to them as it happened , on hearing this , Alhaji stood up and slapped Bimpe calling her a child of shame that has brought shame to his household, he ranted got angry that everyone was begging him but to his deaf here, his wife was also begging him but all to no avail, so he stood up and warned Bimpe not to steeped her foot into his house again, but what can the mother do? Coz in my place there's a saying that says "a good child belongs to the father, but the bad ones to the mother" the mother could not do anything but to ask her daughter who impregnated her which she confessed, the teacher was called upon and he too confessed and promise to take the pregnancy. But where will Bimpe go? Alhaja saratu quickly called her younger sister at Ayetoto village to come to her aid coz she knew what Alhaji can do to safe his reputation in the society and everything was quickly organized on the same spot and Bimpe was taken to Ayetooto village where Alhaja and the Mr Ayankunle, the geography used to visit her to check on wellbeing just to safe her from being stigmatized. On the 9th month guess what? Bimpe got pregnant to a bouncing baby girl and she was christened Amina, thank God the geography teacher was a young man they both got married and Amina returned to school for her WASSCE exam where she cleared all her papers at once and at the ame year, she sat for her jamb and she was one of the three best students with the highest scores and was admitted to study medicine at the Obafemi Awolowo university ile ife osun state on scholarship by an NGO what a journey?Though the journey was rough, but it ends well at the university, she finished with destination and on convocation, she bagged awards from different organizations and she was asked to travel abroad to further her education. What a glorious end. Thanks to Alhaja and the teacher, mr Ayankunle for the support, now Alhaji is now proud of her daughter Bimpe as she was fondly called by Alhaji.
So, the life of Bimpe has taught me a very good lesson of given people second chance ,had it been she was denied the second chance she wouldn't have reached the greater height she reached and as for me as a parent I must not fail in my duty but stand by my family whenever they are in need and educate my wards on every sides a failed home is a failed man. What I would have done as the father is too stand by my daughter as a rock of Gibraltar and not discard her.
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