Hello dear friends!
I start with a phrase that makes me reflect, that today makes me think and that leads me to write, and in the end I write this post, one more in the #ThoughtfulDailyPost community.
Where to start? Ah yes, from the beginning, the title. Because sometimes we come across days that we would prefer to forget or that had not happened, but we cannot control it, we cannot choose those days, those bad days that we all have sometimes.
[The photo is mine taken a long time ago in a trip to Ljubljana, Slovenia]
It has happened to me, it happens to me. And honestly I'm not doing well, but it's normal, because we all like those other days better when we wake up with energy and motivation, when our mind is also in a good mood and fills our heads with positive thoughts, and we see smiles on the streets, and we read good news on the screen by surprise.
But at some point there is something inside us that seems to tell us that it doesn't last forever... Not everything lasts, everything changes and every day is different. Sometimes it is not a day, it is a weird streak, some a good one in which it seems that luck is on our side, and others in which it seems that a curse has fallen on us. But as I say, nothing lasts forever.
What happens is that in those bad moments we have a hard time, and sometimes some small negative thing, some absurd inconvenience can become the trigger for many other things that we have been carrying for a long time. That detail or bad news can bring out old pain and trauma that we may not have known we still had hidden there, in our memory and in our soul.
Then the pain grows, and the mind becomes our worst enemy. Mine is cruel and relentless and begins with harsh words to remind me of all my failures and bad decisions, and to feel those bad feelings that I experienced at some point in the past.
And the fear of repeating old stories arises, the panic of experiencing new paranoid situations invented based on an uncontrolled imagination, and the regrets begin... and also the analysis of everything.
Many "why" appear and among them details that seem unexpected, how is it possible that different bad things happen to me in a period of a couple of hours? Incredible.
And when negative news are combined with some other unpleasant new event, plus all the stress, pressure and distressing memories, suddenly, everything explodes like a pressure cooker.
It is not good to lose control, but honestly it happens, and we must at least try to learn from it, that is what they always tell us, but also, minimize the damage, and return to calm as soon as possible. Of course, if you have to cry, cry, and a lot and loudly, it's ok, nothing happens, let's take advantage of the bad moment to throw out all that internal garbage that we have accumulated. Then talk to whoever we can, with who is willing to listen without judging, sometimes better in silence, and let all that bad stuff come out. And write too if that can make you feel better.
Then we must refocus, take a deep breath and put our minds at the service of ourselves, not against ourselves, and let time pass, that time that heals wounds and also calms despair. And little by little, respecting our process, with a moment for ourselves, to rest, relax and disconnect, breathe deeply again and refocus on all that we have to face.
Because maybe now we can see everything from another perspective, it may not be that big of a deal, or maybe it is, but now with more calm and mental clarity we can think of something good or we simply have the fortitude and patience to see how events develop, and so, with a better spirit then decide and act, in the best way, filling our minds and souls again with positivity, hope and the certainty that everything will be solved or we will do at least everything possible, and surely that, whatever it is, we will learn from it.
And we will also learn that bad things happen, we have bad days, but they do not last forever, and that we have already gotten out of it, we have enjoyed other wonderful moments afterwards, and we know now that we will do it again. So, calm down... I vent, I write, and I start to think more clearly, and to feel that everything will be fine.
And as my ©Legami calendar says...
Thanks for reading! Have a hopeful and happy day!
The text is totally mine and the photos too, by ©Duvinca - No AI
