Ah, words. Those tricky little things we throw around all day without much thought, and I mean your online words as well. They can build someone up or tear them down in seconds. And let’s be honest, how often do we speak and then immediately wish we could reel those words back in like a rogue fishing line? Happens to me more than I care to admit, usually before I’ve had my morning coffee.
So today, let’s take a moment to think about this: What if we paused before speaking? I know, radical idea. But maybe, just maybe, it would save us from awkward moments, hurt feelings, and a whole lot of unnecessary drama.
My own image from my instagram feed
The first thing to ask yourself before speaking is, Is it true?
We’ve all been there, repeating something we heard somewhere, probably from someone who heard it from their neighbor’s cousin’s dog. And let’s not forget the “facts” we pick up online. But if you’re not absolutely sure what you’re saying is true, why say it at all? Honestly, it’s better to admit, I don’t know enough about that, than to pretend you’re the all-knowing oracle of wisdom.
Next, consider this: Is it necessary?
I’ll be the first to admit that I often talk just to fill the silence. It’s a habit. But not everything needs to be said. Sometimes, you just need to zip it. Does what you’re about to say actually add value, or are you about to unleash a rant just because you’re in a mood? Believe me, I’ve been guilty of the latter (especially when I’m hangry). But I’ve learned that sometimes silence really is golden. And if you can’t be quiet, well, at least make sure what you’re saying isn’t going to stir the pot for no good reason.
And finally, Is it kind?
Ah, this one. We’ve all had moments when we’ve thought something we shouldn’t say out loud. And sometimes it slips out anyway. But here’s the thing, words stick. People don’t forget how you made them feel. And memories with emotions stay. It’s not about sugarcoating everything or avoiding tough conversations. It’s about delivering your message with a little compassion. If what you’re about to say would hurt you if it was said to you, maybe rethink your approach. And if you’re angry, say it an leave the room. Come back when you calmed down. There is no reason when emotions are involved.
The images is my own from my instagram feed
Look, I’m not here to preach perfection. I get it, sometimes emotions run high, and we speak without thinking. But if we all paused for just a second to think about what we’re saying, we’d save ourselves and others a lot of heartache.
So, next time you’re about to throw your two cents into a conversation, ask yourself: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? If the answer is no to any of those, maybe give yourself a little internal high five for keeping your mouth shut.
Because honestly, the world could use more thoughtful conversations, and fewer regrets.
With love and a bit of self-restraint,
Nathalie
