In the past I was at times trying to focus on all the "enemies", one by one, trying to be disciplined in making sure I don't let them hurt my system too much; but sometimes you're looking in the wrong places, or not really the "wrong" places, but you're focusing on all sorts of smaller issues, while you're unaware of the bigger reason for what's causing you to always fall into the same unhealthy patterns. Like, until I started dealing with my mental health, I could have spent 10.000 hours on learning about how every little thing in life is potentially harmful to me, but mentally you aren't healthy and strong enough to make the right choices anyway, so then it becomes a depressing neverending cycle of being aware of making the wrong choices but being unable to stop making them, just judging yourself for being stupid, which then causes more depression. Like someone can think everyday about how smoking could cause lung cancer, but as long as they're working the job they hate, living with people that mentally drive them insane, are sacrificing sleep quality, and are buying fast food because it's easy, it will basically kind of be a waste of energy to even worry about how harmful the smoking could potentially be to your health, you need to slow things down, zoom out and just generally focus on your state of health for a while, gain insights and awareness on how your overall life is going and what is still worth it or not. And so just judging something you're doing as bad/harmful, or judging what others are doing as bad, isn't usually by itself going to stop them from keep doing it, if to them they see a good reason in it, it may be their coping mechanism of dealing with their messed up life that they're constantly trying to distract themselves from, and then the judging is going to make people feel defensive, or bad about themselves, which then gives them extra reasons to cope, and so yeah it can get pretty complicated indeed.
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