Greetings to my hive family!
Often times, I describe fear as the lack of faith either in people, business or things. Fear of the unknown is the worst thing because it is the main reason why some are not where they are supposed to be today. Fear of the unknown is the reason many elephants are still feeding like ants and trampled upon at will. The fear of the unknown is an enemy that creates an imaginary problem in who or what we have not even delve into. It creates a problem that never exists. Fear of the unknown has made many lose their potential husbands via 'what if'. What if he doesn't make it? What if he doesn't become wealthy? What if his or her parents do not love me? What if he marries another woman?
The fear of unknown brings so much worries that are not necessary. Just a year ago, I realized I wasn't getting any younger that I needed to get married. Good for me, I was already in a relationship but the problem there was that I wasn't sure if I wanted to do a forever thing with him. I was scared of so many things, at that moment he had no money and the worst is I wasn't sure if he would have money or become prosperous in the future. I had suffered so much in the past that I don't want those lack and want to continue. I loved this my guy and he has potentials but I didn't know what the future holds for us. I would cry all night and day because I wanted to see into the future before saying yes, 'I do'. I lingered so much at this junction that my parents advised me to live the man if I had no faith in his future, that it is only God that knows the end from the beginning. Oh! I almost lost my handsome, brilliant and loving husband, until I woke up one day and decided to trust the process and had faith that our future and union will be blessed. I summoned courage since I loved him and we decided to work together and support each other. I introduced him to my family last year, in the month of May and we had our wedding thereafter. In fact, our marriage will be a year next week and I would say, I have always enjoyed every bit of it.
Also, the fear of the unknown is not only associated with choice of partners or marriage. We also notice it when we want to start a new thing whether project or business. All of a sudden we will start thinking of what if it doesn't work out. We become so afraid that we most times drop the beautiful ideas. Many don't venture into businesses because they don't want to lose. But of what of if they don't lose. The fear of unknown can make one die a pauper. Do you know that many that are employees now would have become great employers of labour, if the fear of the unknown is taken away. In fact, many don't know there is only a thin line between the successful and the mediocre. The successful are only daring! They are only trying things with faith and taking risks and they are getting richer. The mediocre only see the problems therein and magnify it.
When I started my building materials business, I was 27 years. In fact, I just graduated from the University where I studied English Language. I was just a young lady that had lots of males as friends and I just got the idea from one of them. I didn't see my sex as problem and I didn't see the business as something impossible. Having learnt little from my friend, I set out, telling people I supply building materials such as gravel, stonebase and the likes. The first day I set out, going to various sites, I didn't want to. The thought of making errors if they asked me to supply materials engulfed my heart but I courageously discarded it. That day ushered in my first client and I courageously did the work perfectly and still flourishing therein today. Fear is generally not good factor in all aspects of human life. It negatively injured one ability , renders one incapacitated, and affects one's ouput. A popular niche says if fear is at the door knocking, use faith to open the door. It's as simple as that. Let's start seeing possibilities in things over difficulties. Even if there are risks, we can think of how to reduce the risks and manage it for the success of our endeavors.
Thanks for reading.
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